The Real QJ

Who are you? How do you define yourself? Is it by your titles? Like I’m a Speech Language Pathologist. Or by your attributes? I am kind, I am loving, I am optimistic. Or is it something else, a combination of the two? Q recently had a conversation with one of the leaders of our church congregation about this blog that was really positive. He was really supportive, as has been everyone so far, but he made an interesting comment. He said that he likes the blog but it feels like it only focuses on one aspect of your life, that you are gay. But you are more than just gay. Why not talk about all aspects of you. That’s what we want to do. We want this to be a forum where as we explore all aspects of ourselves, you can do so with us. Who am I? I am Juliet. I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am an aunt. I am a wife. I am a Speech Language Pathologist. I am a follower of Christ. I am a friend. I am an ally. I am a perfectionist. I am kind. I am beautiful. I am w...

Before reading this post, read this About J I’m relatively new to having someone in my life who experiences same sex attraction (SSA) on a daily basis. As I talked about in my about me, being closely connected to people who experience SSA/are gay is not new but up until now I thought that it would be a thing that passed in and out of my life as people came and went. So for obvious reasons I’m continually working on developing my understanding of the LGBTQ+ community.  My journey through this experience and Quinn’s is often different each day and will be as the years go by. Right now I feel like he is so far ahead of me, so I often feel like I’m running to catch up in my understanding of same sex attraction and how it impacts a persons life. Anyone who knows me well knows that I want to have answers right away and understand how things work and will work. But the most important thing that I’m trying to improve is telling myself that it’s okay to go through the journey and be ...