The Real QJ

Before reading this post, read this About J I’m relatively new to having someone in my life who experiences same sex attraction (SSA) on a daily basis. As I talked about in my about me, being closely connected to people who experience SSA/are gay is not new but up until now I thought that it would be a thing that passed in and out of my life as people came and went. So for obvious reasons I’m continually working on developing my understanding of the LGBTQ+ community.  My journey through this experience and Quinn’s is often different each day and will be as the years go by. Right now I feel like he is so far ahead of me, so I often feel like I’m running to catch up in my understanding of same sex attraction and how it impacts a persons life. Anyone who knows me well knows that I want to have answers right away and understand how things work and will work. But the most important thing that I’m trying to improve is telling myself that it’s okay to go through the journey and be ...

Today I continue to have same sex attraction and strive to find joy and happiness within me everyday. So many of my feelings towards myself are still somewhat of hatred and disgust; often, the only value I really find is through service for other people. Without friends or anyone to serve I would look inside and find nothing really positive. I have now started my journey to communicate with the world that even with these attractions, there is joy and happiness to be found. You have to find it deep inside and ultimately find the truths that work best for you. Do not let what others say impact how you learn to discover truths for yourself. Not your family, friends, or anyone. Listen to the spirit inside of you and be not ashamed that God created you exactly how you were meant to be. Ultimately, YOU MATTER TOO! There is value to see in myself but it is going to take work and time to build. I need to see these attractions for what they bring into my life in a positive way and find all...